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BAD BITCHES ONLY!!

We all know someone who's a 'bad bitch' or refers to themselves as such. Because we live in a society with the mindset that we are bad bitches!

We all know it's an opposite definition of what we really are. But in case you haven't thought about it lately, let me break it down.


BAD, as defined by dictionary.com:
1. Not good in any manner or degree
2. Having a wicked or evil character; morally reprehensible: 
3. of poor or inferior quality; defective; deficient: a bad diamond; a bad spark plug.
4. Inadequate or below standard; not satisfactory for use: bad heating; Living conditions in some areas are very bad.
5. Inaccurate, incorrect, or faulty: a bad guess.



BITCH, as defined by dictionary.com:
1. A female dog: 
2. Slang.
A. A malicious, unpleasant, selfish person, especially a woman.
B. A lewd woman.
C. Disparaging and Offensive. Any woman.
Slang. A person who performs demeaning tasks for another; servant

Slang. A convict who is in a homosexual relationship and/or dominant relationship willingly or unwillingly in the prison setting



Nothing positive was a part of those definitions. In fact, words such as wicked, inferior, inadequate, faulty, malicious, and offensive were used. I am all for taking the negative in a situation and turning it into positive. HOWEVER, referring to ourselves and our 'friends' as bad bitches is blatant ignorance.

Here's the thing, everyone wants respected but no one wants to show respect.
Respect to YOURSELF.
There's nothing more degrading than a race of beautiful, educated queens neglecting to fully practice self-praise; and I say that in the most humble manner.

Before we were 'niggas' and 'bitches', we were kings and queens --ROYALTY! 


Here's the funny thing, and excuse me if it sounds like I’m preaching to you guys. But we can't get mad at outsiders referring to us as what we refer to ourselves as. Let the "I can say it but you can't" idea go! We can't keep getting upset for white people for calling us Niggas when we don't have the decency to refer to each other as "brother" or "homie". Ladies, we can't get mad at boys for calling us bitches when we don't respect ourselves enough to refer to ourselves and other females as "ladies". 

I say all of this to say that, even though there are some females out there who don't respect themselves. Either help them or let them be. But then there are females out there who are great! Females who have the ability and potential to make a good impression and represent black females well. Females who are educated and very lady like. None of that matters if you don’t allow it to start with yourself. If you are aware of your good qualities, exude that to the rest of the world. Relax with the "bad bitch" comments.

I'm not sure who has heard the song "Bitch Bad" by Lupe Fiasco, but he basically puts into song how the evolution of praising the image and connotation of a bad bitch can do damage to your true personality and those young ones watching. Believe it or not, there are pre-teens and little girls watching and idolizing you; and each time you refer to yourself as a bad bitch, that little girl re-adjusts herself to be a bad bitch too. If not for yourself, look out for the kids!!

Ladies, it's not cute! Stop degrading yourselves. You can't be a nickel out here looking for a dime. 

"Bitch bad. Women good. Lady Better." -Lupe Fiasco






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